There is another component like distraction that sometimes keeps me from following through on my projects. It is when my day does not go as planned. Monday did not go as planned because it was full of distractions but I still could have overcome the majority of them had I chosen to do still move forward with my list. I could have gone to the grocery store and run errands in the rain. I certainly would not have melted. I just made different choices on that day.
Yesterday did not go as planned for another reason. J woke up feeling under the weather. My day was not going to happen as I had planned it due to circumstances beyond my control. I had to switch gears if I was going to get anything at all done.
I sometimes (often) struggle with actually getting things done when my original plans change. Wiping down the kitchen cabinets was not on my list of projects I planned to tackle yesterday. I could have simply done nothing yesterday.
I really was tempted to do nothing. However, I decided that I could still get things done even if they were not the original things I had planned. Too often, I do not make that choice. I simply get stuck. I was going to do project A today but now the day is different so I can’t do it. Sometimes, it doesn’t occur to me to switch gears and still get something else done.
It is okay to finish projects in a different order than originally planned. It certainly helps get some of those unfinished projects finished. How do you switch gears and get things done when your day takes an unexpected twist?
Well, I guess what was not a success for yesterday was posting in the 31 Days of Follow Through Series. SIGH. I’m determined to fix things today though. I have yesterday’s post for you plus later, I’ll be writing today’s post. I actually did have both posts planned out in my head. They just didn’t get typed into the blog.
Yesterday was 14 days into my month of Follow Through which meant it should have been time to show you a few finished projects. I do have a FEW finished projects to show you.
The main project I finished this week was wiping down the kitchen cabinets. It probably seems like a little thing. It probably is a little thing. Unfortunately, it is a little thing does not happen often enough around here.
I read somewhere that heating orange oil and wiping down the cabinets worked well.
I’m not sure it made a big difference but it did make me feel like I was going a bit “above and beyond” with my cleaning project.
Hopefully, the clean, shiny cabinets will stay that way for at least two or three days.
My other success story isn’t a completely finished project so much as a start on one of my items. I am not domestic so this was a bit of an ordeal for me. Can I still say I hemmed a pair of J’s pants if I actually used fusing web and the iron?
I did use pins and chalk to measure. I also think I may use the Internet to find a seamstress for the rest of them. This one pair of pants project was simply not pretty. I felt pretty accomplished once I finally finished it though. I probably should have started it prior to 8:00p.m. but I am not sure it would have made much difference given my level of ability.
What projects have you finished this week?
It is no secret that distractions are a big part of what keeps me away from my list of things that require follow-through. Some days I’m much better at dealing with them than others. Today was one of the other days.
For today’s post in the 31 days of Follow Through Series, I’m just going to share all list of all (that I can remember) my distractions today.
- The boys were home from school! That meant that we didn’t need to get up and get ready. It also meant that the day didn’t exactly get off to an early start. And that I was late figuring out breakfast which meant we all got a bit grouchy before mid-morning arrived.
- The weather was a huge distraction today. It meant that my grocery store/errand day didn’t happen because the rain never ever stopped! I think it may still be raining out there.
- The cats were a distraction. Have I ever mentioned that our lovely little kittens are defective? They like to go out in a little bit of rain but of course, want to come in when it starts pouring rain! Then, they want to go back outside.
- I started to think about clearing out the art supply cabinet but then J asked me to do something with him and that led to this:
This meant that instead of the cabinet getting any attention, the kitchen table took on its normal look:
- The phone rang a bunch of times today. My husband called twice asking me to look things up on the computer for him. He needs a fancy phone but won’t get one. We got a few political/sales calls. What Do Not Call List? I’ll be glad when election Tuesday finally arrives and the political phone calls stop at least. A neighbor called and J ended up going to hang out with a friend.
- I took the time J was at his friend’s house to take G and a friend to a movie. I wanted to see it as well:
- Can I just list the cats and weather twice? I didn’t know one of our cats was still outside when we went to the movie so once everyone was back at home, I was outside with my umbrella tracking her down. She was meowing to go back outside 10 minutes later although it was still pouring rain. Have I mentioned our cats are defective?
- Yes, I did play Candy Crush Saga today and look at Pinterest and take one of those “Do You Take Too Many Stupid Quizzes?” type quizzes. By the way the answer to that would have been YES!
- I also read the Entertainment Recaps for Once Upon A Time, Gracepoint, and Resurrection because I’m just that nerdy (sigh).
- Almost forgot the time I spent mediating a few brotherly squabbles. And by that I mean shouting: would you please just work it out yourselves!
This is probably a short list of the day’s distractions and I certainly don’t think all of them were bad. Spending time with my boys while a distraction was probably more important than organizing the art cabinet or wiping down the kitchen cabinets. Of course, I probably could have cut out some of the other distractions and accomplished the other tasks as well.
Why is it so hard to ask for help? Does anyone else struggle with this? It’s as if I can’t get past this part of a certain song by the Beatles:
When I was younger
So much younger than today
I never needed anybody’s help in any way
But now those days are gone
And I’m not so self-assured
Now I find I’ve changed my mind
I’ve opened up the doors.
I’m sure you are singing along with the rest of the lyrics now. My problem is that I may have opened up the doors but I’m still not sharing why or asking for that help I need.
Asking for help can certainly be scary.
Most of my fears about asking for help are pretty irrational. Really, the worst thing that could happen is that I won’t get the help I am requesting.
Sometimes it’s hard to ask for help because we want things done our way exactly and no other way will do. Dishwasher re-arrangers of the world unite! However, it is okay to let someone else help and do things their way. Done is still done.
Sometimes it is about the guilt. I don’t feel it is fear to ask for help with a big project or mess that I made on my own. While I usually don’t hesitate to help someone else out of a jam, I struggle to accept likewise help if I’m the one in need.
Sometimes it is about that foolish pride. Okay, often it is about that stuff. I don’t want to admit that I can not do it by myself. I’m like a rebellious two-year old child “No! I do it!” Of course, the problem here is that I’m a few years older (indeed!) than two and I often need that help which my pride when my pride is refusing to do so much as ask for it.
What happens when we give into those irrational fears, quirks, and prideful feelings? We end up with a mess of unfinished projects that often spiral out of control. It would have been so much easier in the beginning to simply ask for help with a few of them.
Help me out and leave a comment letting me know if asking for assistance is hard for you as well.