Our home is a work in progress. I guess it always will be. I suppose I could be all philosophical here and say that I, too will always be a work in progress. However, the work in progress status of our home was really bothering me recently except I couldn’t put it into words. Are you a “nothing-er” like me? My husband and I had a bit of a discussion last week and it began with him asking me the basic question. “What is wrong?” My reply was, of course: “Nothing.” I’m a nothing-er. Did I really mean nothing was wrong? Nope. When I tell my husband that nothing is wrong, I really mean one of about 3 answers (it took me a long time to realize that and I do need to share this “cheat sheet” with him perhaps):
- There is something wrong but I have not yet found the words to express it.
- There is so much wrong that I do not know where to begin and we don’t have time to “discuss” every detail and so I’m still trying to pick my battle
- There is something wrong but nothing that you can do about it. Most men are problem solvers and mine is no different. Sometimes I simply need time to be upset and solve my own problems.
Last week after giving it some thought, I realized that my main frustration (there were some minor ones as well) was the state of our house. However, there are SO MANY projects going on in our house that I couldn’t pinpoint what was really bothering me at the time of the “What’s wrong?” question. I’ll tell the truth here and say that I had let the house get into quite the disarray. I’m not the best housekeeper in the world to begin with and so when I get frustrated and stop bothering, it shows! Once I realized the main thing was the huge lot of unfinished projects and overall decor dilemmas in our house, I decided to start breaking down the problem bit by bit. I did this as I began the arduous task of cleaning up our home. I carried a piece of paper with me as I cleaned and room by room started listing EVERY SINGLE thing that was bothering me in each room. I started with the living room. The list was long. Some items were serious, some were petty, and some were easy fixes. I realized that *I* could certainly do something about some of the easy fixes:
- Broken Magazine Basket: I removed the magazines, put them in our bedroom, and disposed of the basket (I sadly determined it was beyond repair). A new basket (well, the kind I happen to like) is not in the budget right now but at least I no longer have to look at a broken basket every time I enter the living room.
- Table Location: We had a table near our front door and I liked it there. However, we had moved it to a location next to a couch. You could no longer see the bookshelf part and I was missing my front door table. I moved it back!
I even had an inspiration for adding a little decor to the area with family photos (A project for the future).
- Game Systems all over the floor:
I can pick those up and put them somewhere! I haven’t done this one yet because while it is an easy fix, it is also one of those projects that require multiple steps and strategic planning. Hmm…Maybe it is not such an easy fix but it is certainly within my control.